Recently one of the most asked questions to me is, “Are you married? Are You Married”?… The answer is…YES, I AM MARRIED – TO AN ALTITUDE 🙂
Surprised? 🙂
Ok, let me tell you something; actually, a lot of aviators end up with no family. This is not because we are people whom it is tough to handle, although honestly, sometimes we can be:), the reason is all about our profession. Aviation requires entire dedication, absolute passion, and love, so sometimes, it is too harsh to share these.
Now the most crucial question: what’s probably like to be married an airline pilot? Can you really handle that? I have never been married, so I don’t know how my wife to be can handle that, but I have been raised in a family that my dad was the pilot, and I’m confident to write all the pros and cons of aviator’s family.
One and most important note to remember: YOUR LIFE WILL MOSTLY BE NEVER LIKE THE OTHER COUPLE’S LIFE, that’s for sure 🙂
Now, let’s start with positive aspects:
- You will be able to travel all around the world with your husband/wife and have a fabulous life together.
- Mostly you’ll get a good living, but don’t expect to be super rich 😉
- Your husband/wife will be happy to go to work, and you’ll never see a bad expression on his face whenever going to work. That will make your family life happier, trust me.
These were very positive things in aviation life. Well, it’s time to examine the negative part, and one of the most challenging of aviation life is:
- Scheduling – very often, we work on weekends and holidays. Birthdays, season holidays, weddings, funerals… sometimes you have to be present on your ‘spouse-aviator’s’ behalf.
- Jealousy – Yes, he/she is traveling a lot to different destinations and meet a lot of different people. Of course, it will be a real challenge for you to trust your beloved one and keep the relationship from ‘jealousy’ drama, which can lead to a breakup, hence the problem of that much divorce rate among aviators’ families.
- It’s more like a distance relationship – don’t expect your significant other to be at home every night or every day after 6 pm.
All these negative aspects require your understanding and ability to share his/her passion. So maybe next time when you are on a flight and see the pilots and flight attendants, you’ll know how different are their lives and if you really make that decision to be part of that life, then go for it and be happy.
Until next time and, as always, “We Speak Aviation”!
7 Comments
Maya
Congratulations on your 400k Followers. I\’ve been following you last 3 years and what I love about you is how you keep it professional. Just goes to show your passion and dedication in Aviation. Hope to meet you in London one day 🙏🏽🇬🇧😘
Airene
Hi pilotamireh this is a silly question but hope you don’t mind me asking, as a pilot do you have a girlfriend/wife? And how you handle the situation of you being always far from her? How do you make time for her? Thank you for the response.
Fatima
Hhhhhhh good answer
💪❤️❤️❤️Anas
AbuBakar jamil
A lot of respect to all the pilots flying us safe around the world. I understand it can get really challenging to balance between families and friends. My friend is a cabin crew at qatar airways, we all ask him if he is enjoying his life, he travels and visits new countries, eats in famous restaurants, but according to him he really misses his family functions and his wedding anniversary. It\’s a big sacrifice what is done ,as we sit back and demand for a good service. Thanks to all the people who help us reach safely to our destination. Loves and hugs from Toronto, Canada
Natasha
ABSOLUTELY WISE ADVISES regarding Aviators’ marriage life… Personally have friends Pilots and the issues and happiness go together… Know for sure cz traveled with the Olympic Team for years and we are kind of similar to Aviators…
Have faith…
Wishing You what you wish for yourself…
Experienced by Marriage for 29 yrs Olympic Athlete Lady 😜😁
ELISA PALMONARI
my opinion is that to get married and raise a family you need to be mature enough to go beyond your natural self-centeredness. In particular, if you marry a pilot, you cannot really afford adolescent attitudes like jealousy, possessiveness and various insecurities. Furthermore, you need to be an independent person on all fronts and know how to get by yourself in every situation. It is a tiring job and when one is rarely at home one certainly cannot waste time on silly questions or useless discussions. It goes without saying that age is a strong discriminating factor: they are objectively very difficult conditions at 20 or 30 years.
Elaine Bosvik
You answered that very well. I hope you will find that one person who shares that passion.
That also is true for doctors and military people as they are not home a lot either. Doctors with the pretty nurses can spark jealousy as well. If you have enough love and devotion between you, jealousy should never enter into that equation. Yes, you are apart a lot but, that should make the love grow stronger because the time you do spend together will be more precious.
As a writer and having that as my passion I know that more time should be spent with family but, the love of what I do takes my time. You are researching, writing, dreaming, plotting so much, that it becomes your world. You tend to treat your writing more like a lover, spouse, etc. and the other person becomes jealous of your book or whatever you have going.
I see your passion for flight as being your wife. Once you have flown a plane nothing can compete with that feeling of being airborne. Nothing can compare with the sensation of flying, once you have done it yourself.