Recently one of the most asked questions to me is, “Are you married? Are You Married”?… The answer is…YES, I AM MARRIED – TO AN ALTITUDE 🙂
Ok, let me tell you something; actually, a lot of aviators end up with no family. This is not because we are people whom it is tough to handle, although honestly, sometimes we can be:), the reason is all about our profession. Aviation requires entire dedication, absolute passion, and love, so sometimes, it is too harsh to share these.
Now the most crucial question: what’s probably like to be married an airline pilot? Can you really handle that? I have never been married, so I don’t know how my wife to be can handle that, but I have been raised in a family that my dad was the pilot, and I’m confident to write all the pros and cons of aviator’s family.
One and most important note to remember: YOUR LIFE WILL MOSTLY BE NEVER LIKE THE OTHER COUPLE’S LIFE, that’s for sure 🙂
Now, let’s start with positive aspects:
- You will be able to travel all around the world with your husband/wife and have a fabulous life together.
- Mostly you’ll get a good living, but don’t expect to be super rich 😉
- Your husband/wife will be happy to go to work, and you’ll never see a bad expression on his face whenever going to work. That will make your family life happier, trust me.
These were very positive things in aviation life. Well, it’s time to examine the negative part, and one of the most challenging of aviation life is:
- Scheduling – very often, we work on weekends and holidays. Birthdays, season holidays, weddings, funerals… sometimes you have to be present on your ‘spouse-aviator’s’ behalf.
- Jealousy – Yes, he/she is traveling a lot to different destinations and meet a lot of different people. Of course, it will be a real challenge for you to trust your beloved one and keep the relationship from ‘jealousy’ drama, which can lead to a breakup, hence the problem of that much divorce rate among aviators’ families.
- It’s more like a distance relationship – don’t expect your significant other to be at home every night or every day after 6 pm.
All these negative aspects require your understanding and ability to share his/her passion. So maybe next time when you are on a flight and see the pilots and flight attendants, you’ll know how different are their lives and if you really make that decision to be part of that life, then go for it and be happy.
Until next time and, as always, “We Speak Aviation”!